All of us here at Jacobs Berger want to reassure our clients and business associates that their health and safety are our primary concern.

All of us here at Jacobs Berger want to reassure our clients and business associates that their health and safety are our primary concern and that we are also committed to the health and safety of our staff and our families. Though we are currently working remotely, we continue to operate as we always have, providing quality service and for us, it is “business as usual.”


We are offering telephonic and video calls, conferences, mediations, and strategic planning sessions to continue to service our clients and prospective clients, and are, of course, available for ongoing business partnerships via our virtual network!

If you have any questions or concerns, please do not hesitate to contact us via phone at 973-710-4366, by email, or, if necessary, carrier pigeon. (We are kidding about the last one, but you laughed, didn’t you?) Also, head to our social media pages for some tips on staying healthy, safe and sane during this time.

We are all in this together.

New Year’s Resolution: Divorce!

Contemplating Divorce in 2020 – Family Law Attorneys Morristown NJ

One or both partners set resolutions, and if the marriage has been on the rocks, there may be the intention to initiate a divorce.

Contemplating Divorce in 2020 Family Attorneys Morristown NJJanuary is unofficially considered the ‘divorce month.’ This is because, after the holidays, which are typically a time full of family and fanfare from November through New Year’s Eve, couples really begin to consider what they would like to bring into being in the new year.

If divorce is one of your New Year’s resolutions this year, take the following considerations into account to ensure that your decision is well-thought-out and the process can be swift so that you and your family can each move on in highest alignment and wellbeing.

Consider the timeline

If divorce feels inevitable, create a timeline for yourself by which you will transition to habits and schedules that meet your needs and goals as an individual. This means, begin the transition from the inside out. What will your future return to singledom look and feel like? What will be self-care rituals that you will engage in regularly? What new goals will you pursue that have not been possible in your current marital arrangement? Set a timeline for the initiation or even completion of these inner and outer goals, and hold yourself accountable for stepping into the best version of your sovereign self, whatever stage of the process of divorce you are in.

Be gentle with yourself.

Assess whether divorce is the best step forward.The decision to divorce is a huge one, and no small amount of emotional upheaval is likely. Plan for the waves of grief, anger, and fear by being intentionally gentle with yourself during this time of uncertainty. Be extra focused on engaging in self-care throughout the day, using such practices like meditation, yoga, envisioning, and journaling to help you move arising energy through your body and process thoughts involved. Remember that the fear mind is likely to emerge, creating all kinds of dramatic stories in your mind; don’t believe everything that you think. Pay attention to the feelings in your body; tending to them will help you access more positive thoughts.

Assess whether divorce is the best step forward.

Once you are grounded in a sense of inner sovereignty, agency, and emotional stability, it is possible to engage such questions as to whether divorce is truly the next best step. From a place of equanimity, ask yourself such questions as

  • What dynamics do my partner and I have that cause conflict in our relationship? Have we exhausted all manners of shifting these dynamics to realign in healthy presence together, and we are still caught?
  • Have we sought support to address our differences?
  • Am I my fullest, happiest self in the relationship? If not, what aspects of myself have I given up? Are they the fault of the relationship, or have I given away my power?
  • What direction would my life take if I was in highest alignment and integrity with myself? What direction would my partner’s life take if they were in highest alignment and integrity with themselves? Are they compatible, or is it time to step away, so that each can fulfill their purpose?

List the pros and cons.

From an objective standpoint, consider the reasons your marriage is a benefit to your life, and the reasons it is detrimental. Considerations could include

  • Emotional health
  • Communication
  • Financial freedom or dependence
  • Children and family
  • Intimacy
  • Relational dynamics

This is an important time to truly consider how the relationship makes you feel, and how you are acting within it. Many people get caught in being a people pleaser or acting from a mindset of fear, co-dependence, or lack. Be willing to look at the way you show up to your relationship honestly, and seek the support you need to address any unresolved internal blocks you may find that do not necessarily stem from the relationship but are triggered by it.

You’ve decided to divorce.

Consult an Experienced Morristown Divorce AttorneyOnce the decision to divorce has been made, there are a few important steps to immediately take:

  • Get your finances in order. Make copies of your financial records.
  • Check for forgotten assets. Savings accounts, IRAs, investments, etc. could be quietly gathering or holding funds that you each have a claim to.
  • Itemize your current budget, including mortgage or housing costs, food, children’s costs, insurance, medical expenses, vacations, etc.

Be grateful!

You’re taking steps to claim your sovereignty and wellbeing and follow your own path. Be proud of yourself and grateful for the opportunity to grow.

Consult an Experienced Morristown Divorce Attorney

At Jacobs Berger, LLC, our legal attorneys are experienced in supporting divorce agreements across Morris County and Northern New Jersey

Our direct approach ensures that our clients receive their full share in a legal separation, all the while handling the minutia so they can attend to their physical, mental, and emotional wellbeing and that of their children during this time of transition.

To speak with our firm today regarding your decision to divorce, please contact us at 973-718-7705 or check our online form; we look forward to representing your legal rights.

About the Author:

Sarah Jacobs is dedicated to protecting the interests of clients in family law proceedings. Certified by the Supreme Court of New Jersey as a Matrimonial Law Attorney, and Qualified as a Mediator, Sarah possesses nearly 20 years of experience practicing law throughout the State of New Jersey. Together with partner Jamie N. Berger, Esq. their boutique Morristown family law firm is managed with the goal of providing high-quality service tailored to each client's individual needs. In her capacity as both a family law mediator and litigator, Sarah works with negotiation-minded clients in a cooperative setting. She is also a skilled litigator with the knowledge needed to take even the most complex cases to court, if necessary.

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